jokususa reviewed Irreversible Damage by Abigail Shrier
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3 stars
Growing i was awkward, socially unskilled and rigid, unpretty and shocked by the amount of criticizing i was set out to get for my gender. Oh, I did not want to be a girl and definitely not a woman with an unfortunate painful bleeding once a month, nor did i particularly enjoy the idea of this contraption was there only to make me able make babies.
To but it shortly, i did not want to be a woman. I didn't even feel like a woman, i felt like i did not belong among other girls.
With these specs, i could probably be a potential trans man. For me, being a woman was just something i had to grudgingly accept because of the body i was born with. Older, i think it was the right choice - i'd be just as bad as a man as a woman. It was never …
Growing i was awkward, socially unskilled and rigid, unpretty and shocked by the amount of criticizing i was set out to get for my gender. Oh, I did not want to be a girl and definitely not a woman with an unfortunate painful bleeding once a month, nor did i particularly enjoy the idea of this contraption was there only to make me able make babies.
To but it shortly, i did not want to be a woman. I didn't even feel like a woman, i felt like i did not belong among other girls.
With these specs, i could probably be a potential trans man. For me, being a woman was just something i had to grudgingly accept because of the body i was born with. Older, i think it was the right choice - i'd be just as bad as a man as a woman. It was never what i wanted to be, but it was more convenient than anything else. besides, the pressures of the stereotypical genders affect my mental health less and going through the surgeries is just not worth it - i cant get myself to look how id imagine id look. I wonder if these are the things trans will have to go through in their therapy.
I have been curious about transgender, because its an experience i can almost understand but then not after all. Perhaps that is just the way it is. But i was curious to find if there was overlapping experiences in this.
Book did try to make a point of that it is just not very appealing to be a woman. I agree. I think the point shouldve been discussed further, though. If you are not looking forward to birthing babies, its not just inconvenient, its painful to be a woman. Starting from the physical pain of periods oon the terrifying feel of first starting to get noticed by men in an uncomfortable way. You may not feel even like sexual being, but you're already being sexualized.
Since the author has had children, she seems to be biased on the magic of childbirth (ig good for her kids!) but I dont find that a good point for speaking in behalf as womanhood only.
Sometimes the author uses words that seem intended to cause disruption rather than finding a neutral way to discuss difficult topics. It is perhaps aimed to get you to think and form your own thoughts, but i cannot agree with it. She raises some legitimate concerns, but for the main one, i truly dont know wether its better to go on with affirming therapy or just, therapy. Perhaps once we get more science behind it, itll be easier to make the call.
Wether you agree with Shrier or trans activists, i cant help but think after the tumultuous times of fighting for what is the new normal, it will hopefully end up in broader gender spectrum - whether you identify in the woman spectrum or as trans or other. And that cant be a bad thing.
To but it shortly, i did not want to be a woman. I didn't even feel like a woman, i felt like i did not belong among other girls.
With these specs, i could probably be a potential trans man. For me, being a woman was just something i had to grudgingly accept because of the body i was born with. Older, i think it was the right choice - i'd be just as bad as a man as a woman. It was never what i wanted to be, but it was more convenient than anything else. besides, the pressures of the stereotypical genders affect my mental health less and going through the surgeries is just not worth it - i cant get myself to look how id imagine id look. I wonder if these are the things trans will have to go through in their therapy.
I have been curious about transgender, because its an experience i can almost understand but then not after all. Perhaps that is just the way it is. But i was curious to find if there was overlapping experiences in this.
Book did try to make a point of that it is just not very appealing to be a woman. I agree. I think the point shouldve been discussed further, though. If you are not looking forward to birthing babies, its not just inconvenient, its painful to be a woman. Starting from the physical pain of periods oon the terrifying feel of first starting to get noticed by men in an uncomfortable way. You may not feel even like sexual being, but you're already being sexualized.
Since the author has had children, she seems to be biased on the magic of childbirth (ig good for her kids!) but I dont find that a good point for speaking in behalf as womanhood only.
Sometimes the author uses words that seem intended to cause disruption rather than finding a neutral way to discuss difficult topics. It is perhaps aimed to get you to think and form your own thoughts, but i cannot agree with it. She raises some legitimate concerns, but for the main one, i truly dont know wether its better to go on with affirming therapy or just, therapy. Perhaps once we get more science behind it, itll be easier to make the call.
Wether you agree with Shrier or trans activists, i cant help but think after the tumultuous times of fighting for what is the new normal, it will hopefully end up in broader gender spectrum - whether you identify in the woman spectrum or as trans or other. And that cant be a bad thing.